Going through peer pressure can be one of the worst things that can happen in your life. You will find it challenging to deal with the people surrounding you, especially if you want to become part of their circle. There are days when you would wonder what the right thing to do is. Are you going to follow the demands of your friends? Or are you going to follow what is right and risk losing them as part of your life? These are the two questions that can drive you insane, the more you continue to think about them.
We understand that peer pressure is a real thing, and it can be scary to handle. As such, we have decided to come up with an article that can help you understand the proper ways to deal with peer pressure. Alicia H. Clark, Psy.D. used to say, “The sensation of pressure doesn’t have to be negative—it can be a positive challenge and motivating.” That is why the goal of this post is to encourage you to stand up for your self. Never let anyone tell you what to do, mainly if they are against your will. Here are the things that you can do:
Check Your Emotions
The first or initial step that you need to do is to understand what you are feeling. Notice how your emotion changes whenever a friend tries to pressure you into doing something that you are not comfortable. As much as possible, be aware of what affects your feelings because they can guide you on how to handle the situation better. If something does not feel okay, feel free to let the other person know about it. “Give yourself permission to do some serious emotional healing to become your happiest self and remember, it is a process more than a destination.” Roya R. Rad, MA, PsyD suggests.
Once you notice that your friend keeps on putting you in a compromising situation, then be sure that you will begin to plan ahead. Think of the possible ways on how your friend can affect your day-to-day life. You must be good in anticipating her next moves so that you can plan the proper action to whatever she will do. As much as possible, keep yourself prepared so that you will never be caught off guard.
Learn To Say No
As already mentioned above, be strong enough to stand for yourself. If you are not happy with how the other person is treating you, do not hesitate to let her know about it. If he reacts negatively, consider it as an indication that you may need to cut your ties with her soon. Stop forcing yourself to be in a type of friendship wherein the other person does not see your value. Take note that you are an amazing individual who deserves a friend who is real. You need to be with a friend who respects and understands you. “You’ll love yourself more when you set limits or say no to work, love, or activities that deplete or harm you physically, emotionally and spiritually, or express poorly who you are.” Deborah Khoshaba Psy.D. said.
Having a friend who constantly makes you feel bad or add unnecessary stress in your life can be bad for your mental health. The more you spend time with this individual, the harder things will become for you. It can cause a decline in your mental wellness. Because of this, be sure that you will focus on finding friends who will love you for who you are.