It all started at the 2017 Empower Women Conference. “Empowering Women Locally and Globally to Positively Impact the World,” that was the theme of the conference. The whole event took five hours, but for me, it seemed like a few minutes. Indiana University and their Office of International Services presented this conference and of course, the topics were about empowering women. They wanted to show women that they can conquer fields like education, leadership development, and social justice.
Melissa and Harvey have been married for eleven years. Melissa recounted that they have a blissful life until she got pregnant after trying for almost six years. The house was full of energy while both expecting parents were excited about the coming of their first-born child. However, during Melissa’s second trimester, she got into a car accident and lost her baby. After this incident, Melissa’s outlook on life changed and she started to feel depressed most of the time. On the other hand, Harvey expressed frustration and disappointment in helping Melissa with her emotional problems. He no longer feels the connection that he used to have with the relationship. He was already considering getting a divorce.
“Oftentimes it seems to come out of nowhere. It might speak up when you’re in the fitting room, when you’re going to the gym, when you’re getting ready for dinner, when you’re eating, when you’re focused on a project for work, when you’re walking down the street. One of the toughest parts about silencing that negative voice is that it sounds suspiciously similar to our own voice.” Margarita Tartakovsky, MS talks about negative body image.
Women these days inescapably feel insecure about their bodies and physical appearance. It makes them attempt to manipulate their bodies to please the eyes of everyone. Celebrities seen on television tend to demonstrate how to become successful and popular by being thin. And this is what we call the “thin-ideal media” concept where most actresses who have important roles in films or shows are undeniably thin. It seems like every year the body size of women portrayed by the mass media is getting smaller and smaller. We can’t deny the fact that this type of women is marketable and considered by the majority as attractive.
“Mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It influences how we think, feel, and behave. It also determines how we cope with stress, relate to others, and make choices. Although we may think of mental health in terms of having a mental health diagnosis such as depression, mental health issues impact everyone,” according to Certified Coach Amanda Morris PsyD.
If you are feeling down in the dumps lately, having problems with your relationships or connections, you may have to consider changing your diet completely. The research on nutritional intake concerning the onset of mental health imbalances has connected specific food items that help boost and improve emotional states. Most experts agree with the findings of these studies and have promoted the practice to their patients who are experiencing difficulties in handling psychological conflicts, especially on mood disorders. “All food is not created equal, and the dietary choices we make affect our bodies and minds over the weeks, months and years,” according to Lauren Broch, PhD, a clinical health psychologist.
It’s not unheard of for either the bride or groom to get cold feet before the wedding. Some pre-wedding anxiety is perfectly normal and natural, as virtually everyone experiences such anxiety to one degree or another. – John M. Grohol, Psy.D.
Some people have “cold feet” about the idea of committing for life through a sacred bond called marriage. They may be afraid of getting a lifetime commitment; nonetheless, they can have romantic relationships. It may be described by those who have gamophobia that their fear of marriage is parallel to the fear of dying. People having this type of phobia either remain spinsters, bachelors or committed to a single partner for the rest of their life.
Are you lagging at work? Is functioning appropriately such a predicament? Are you feeling exhausted at every turn and are almost always irritable at your colleagues and boss? Are you still meeting goals and deadlines?
Anxiety disorder is a mental health problem that you couldn’t tell how you got in the first place. You couldn’t say you have it until it already messes with your life. It’s like a prison that stops you from doing things you should be enjoying, for instance, swimming, hiking, traveling, etc. When you have anxiety, you get paranoid about your safety and mortality most of the time. You tend to be worried about things that you don’t usually care about.
“Anxiety can particularly accelerate anger when the anxious person isn’t allocating their resources effectively. Often, they are so overwhelmed by trying to manage or ward off their anxiety that they don’t realize how they come across to the people they love, or worse, are too consumed by it to risk showing vulnerability.” – Alicia H. Clark PsyD
Anxiety can particularly accelerate anger when the anxious person isn’t allocating their resources effectively. Often, they are so overwhelmed by trying to manage or ward off their anxiety that they don’t realize how they come across to the people they love, or worse, are too consumed by it to risk showing vulnerability.
If there’s something I’ve learned after practicing psychology for a few years now, it’s the fact that the cardigans, the pressed shirts, and the slacks can get old. In the beginning, you may love the idea of wearing such clothing pieces because they make you look professional. Thus, you will not have to work hard to convince people that you are genuinely capable of helping them get over their mental health issues. The more you keep on following the same routine, though, the more you may feel as if your fashion sense has already suffered enough due to your profession.
Assuming you want to heed your usual advice to the patients to try something different today, and you don’t mind embracing the soft grunge style even if the decision might raise eyebrows, here are a few accessories you should have.
Rings And Earrings
Assuming that this is your first attempt at styling yourself in the soft grunge fashion, and you are not used to it, start small with rings and earrings. They are almost inconspicuous due to their size, but when others catch them on their peripherals, they will be curious about it – and the wearer – you – for having such a fresh flair.
Soft grunge is known for upside down crosses and astronomic designs that are mostly made from silver metal. You can differentiate it from the gothic style when you see that you do not need to be heavily accessorized, in comparison with the latter.
Short necklaces and chokers are also great accessories for soft grunge. Tuck your pearls and other precious gems deep under your jewelry box, and replace them with nylon or studded chokers and silver chains.
That is how you mix Goth and grunge. The black choker is from the former, while the latter softens it a bit. You want to have that laid-back yet dark aura without overdoing it. Of course, you also would like to seem as if you have been already partying when Nirvana and Soundgarden have come out in the 90s, even though you have probably been still in your crib at that time.
You should also think of the kind of top you will wear. If you like shirts with cute little hearts on them, they, unfortunately, have to go because they do not suit the soft grunge fashion. Say goodbye to your neat-looking and colorful blouses as well, as those are not fitting to your rocker chick vibe.
Instead, go for the ones that show more skin. Sleeveless tanks are phenomenal. In case you want sleeves, that’s fine, but lean towards the cropped tops. As for the design, you can’t be more right when putting on something that has the logo of an old band. The older it is, the better. But if that is not available, then those with shady or not-too-happy prints are okay too.
Ripped Shorts Or Jeans
Grungy tops are best partnered with ripped denim. Shorts or jeans or capris – the cut does not matter. It may be better if they have frayed trimmings since that will surely make them look like they have been overly used. You aim to be as rugged-looking as possible. Seamless bottom garments won’t be suitable for this style, though. If your clothes look crisp and clean, then you are already going for a diverse – more boring – fashion.
Another thing that you have to remind yourself of once you accept the soft grunge fashion: wear your sneakers often. It is not only for shorts or pants but for jackets and vests too. The shoes will make you seem even less formal, and that is superb. Anyways, when choosing your kicks, the rule of thumb is that they should be in black, white or gray. They can be a combination of these colors, yet it is preferable if black is just black, white is only white, and gray is just gray.
If the rubber shoes do not suit your soft grunge clothes, look into wearing platforms. Ballet flats are a no-no. The cute strappy sandals and colorful stilettos are going to be out of place in this trend too. Platforms can give you the height that you desire from the latter. They can also be in the form of boots, with or without laces. The thing is, you have to ascertain that they are in neutral tones. Black leather and white suedes are fine, but the ones with caramel or mauve may be going a little too far.
The stylish glasses in the 1990s were full-rimmed and rounded. Therefore, when you pick your eyewear now, whether the lenses are clear or tinted, they should not be rimless. The aviator shades will not be a sweet option for this fashion. Even though they are amazing with a lot of getups, its style can modernize your appearance too much.
Finding the items mentioned above that can kickstart your soft grunge journey is practically a cakewalk. You can get them in almost every department store these days. In truth, you may already possess some or all of them. Hence, nothing should stop you at looking grungy soon. Good luck!
Anxiety is one of the most common psychological disorders among teens and adults all over the world. In the United States, studies show that anxiety disorders affect 18.1% of the population annually. “Anxiety disorders are a set of related mental conditions that include: generalized anxiety disorder, panic disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), social phobia, and simple phobias. Anxiety disorders are treated by a combination of psychiatric medications and psychotherapy,” according to John M. Grohol, Psy.D. Therefore, this has been a psychological epidemic that needs to be resolved. Continue reading “Impact Of Healthy Lifestyle Choices In Overcoming Stress And Anxiety”
When the Beatles wrote, “All you need is love à” they should have added, “and the wisdom to work through tough times, even if it means seeking professional help.” This is because counseling can be a relationship-saving resource for couples. Couples counseling is also known as marriage counseling or marriage therapy when the two people involved are married. – Jane Framingham, Ph.D.
There is no easy way to accept the end of a marriage, especially if you have tried marriage counseling. It is only normal for you to feel pain and betrayal, particularly in cases where infidelity is involved. A lot of things will enter your mind because you will find it hard to consider divorce. You would probably wonder why the sessions with an expert marriage counselor did not work. Do not worry because you can still turn your life around even after you and your spouse are about to separate ways and break the family.
A great agreement for couples to make early on is that if either one of them wants marriage (or relationship) counseling, the other will agree to go. Such an understanding can save many marriages. – Marcia Naomi Berger, MSW, LCSW
But if they both don’t want to save the marriage, then, divorce is the next step.
In this article, our primary focus is about the consequences of divorce and how to handle it. The first thing that you must know or understand is the reality that marriage counseling is not a surefire way to save the marriage. “All couples can benefit from learning skills that are taught in couples therapy. That’s because these skills focus on cultivating a deep connection between partners and resolving conflict without shame or blame. And that helps all relationships,” says Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S. Keep in mind that the role of a counselor is not to solve the problems and issues in the relationship. Instead, said professional is merely in charge of allowing both parties to a marriage to come together so that they can resolve the marital conflict.
Unfortunately, there are instances where the couples are already too hurt and distant from each other that even marriage-counseling can no longer bring them together. Instead of solving the issues that they have, these problems can become bigger to the point that there is nothing left for them to do but to seek divorce. If this is what is happening in your life right now, do not fret because everything is going to change soon. Make sure to follow the tips listed below to find out the proper things do after finding out that marriage counseling did not work for you and your soon-to-be ex:
Cry Your Heart Out
Do not fear to show your true emotions in this moment of weakness and heartbreak. You have to pour out all your feelings until you get tired of crying. Take note that just because you are in tears does not mean that you are entertaining defeat. Instead, take it as an opportunity to let go of what you are feeling inside you. The more you continue to pretend that everything is okay, the harder it will be for you to move on. A similar article in www.sheknows.com may also be helpful.
Stop The Blame Game
As already mentioned above, it is not the fault of the counselor if the marriage was not saved after counseling. Remember that several factors can affect the success of the relationship. As such, you must never blame other people for what happened to your marriage. The truth is that only you and the other spouse is responsible for the divorce. The union is about to be dissolved because both of you failed in some aspects. The right and ideal thing to do is to own up to the mistake and give yourself another chance to move on from the heartbreaking moments.
Talk To The Kids
Another essential step that you must never forget is to open up to your kids about the situation. Do not put them in the dark by keeping the separation a secret from your children. Take note that kids these days are not stupid to just take whatever you say to them. They can also feel if their parents are going to break up soon. Make things a little bit easier for them by making an effort to become honest about the end of the marriage. Read more ways to talk to the kids at MomJunction.com.
Find A Lawyer
There are tons of legalities involved when it comes to getting a divorce. First of all, you have to divide the properties acquired during the marriage. Hence, you may need to liquidate all your assets together and have it divided between the two of you. Second, it is crucial to discuss the custody of the children. In this aspect, the best interest of the kids is always taken into consideration. Third, if there is a criminal activity committed by the other person, you may want to file a case. Because of all these, the assistance of a good divorce lawyer or attorney may come in handy.
Go On Vacation
Do not deny yourself the chance to become happy again. It will take all the courage left in you to move on from the heartbreaking moment. As such, it is highly recommended for you to travel to a place that you have never been to before. In so doing, you expose yourself to a new environment that can enable you to feel a lot of things. There will be excitement, hope, and fears once again in your life. Never make excuses for not going away for some time.
Life goes on even after your marriage has ended. Do not allow yourself to become a prisoner of the past so that you can experience happiness once again. At the same time, take note that your kids depend on you, which is why you have to fix yourself so that you can continue to become a good role model for them.