It all started at the 2017 Empower Women Conference. “Empowering Women Locally and Globally to Positively Impact the World,” that was the theme of the conference. The whole event took five hours, but for me, it seemed like a few minutes. Indiana University and their Office of International Services presented this conference and of course, the topics were about empowering women. They wanted to show women that they can conquer fields like education, leadership development, and social justice.
Melissa and Harvey have been married for eleven years. Melissa recounted that they have a blissful life until she got pregnant after trying for almost six years. The house was full of energy while both expecting parents were excited about the coming of their first-born child. However, during Melissa’s second trimester, she got into a car accident and lost her baby. After this incident, Melissa’s outlook on life changed and she started to feel depressed most of the time. On the other hand, Harvey expressed frustration and disappointment in helping Melissa with her emotional problems. He no longer feels the connection that he used to have with the relationship. He was already considering getting a divorce.
“Oftentimes it seems to come out of nowhere. It might speak up when you’re in the fitting room, when you’re going to the gym, when you’re getting ready for dinner, when you’re eating, when you’re focused on a project for work, when you’re walking down the street. One of the toughest parts about silencing that negative voice is that it sounds suspiciously similar to our own voice.” Margarita Tartakovsky, MS talks about negative body image.
Women these days inescapably feel insecure about their bodies and physical appearance. It makes them attempt to manipulate their bodies to please the eyes of everyone. Celebrities seen on television tend to demonstrate how to become successful and popular by being thin. And this is what we call the “thin-ideal media” concept where most actresses who have important roles in films or shows are undeniably thin. It seems like every year the body size of women portrayed by the mass media is getting smaller and smaller. We can’t deny the fact that this type of women is marketable and considered by the majority as attractive.
“Mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It influences how we think, feel, and behave. It also determines how we cope with stress, relate to others, and make choices. Although we may think of mental health in terms of having a mental health diagnosis such as depression, mental health issues impact everyone,” according to Certified Coach Amanda Morris PsyD.
If you are feeling down in the dumps lately, having problems with your relationships or connections, you may have to consider changing your diet completely. The research on nutritional intake concerning the onset of mental health imbalances has connected specific food items that help boost and improve emotional states. Most experts agree with the findings of these studies and have promoted the practice to their patients who are experiencing difficulties in handling psychological conflicts, especially on mood disorders. “All food is not created equal, and the dietary choices we make affect our bodies and minds over the weeks, months and years,” according to Lauren Broch, PhD, a clinical health psychologist.
It’s not unheard of for either the bride or groom to get cold feet before the wedding. Some pre-wedding anxiety is perfectly normal and natural, as virtually everyone experiences such anxiety to one degree or another. – John M. Grohol, Psy.D.
Some people have “cold feet” about the idea of committing for life through a sacred bond called marriage. They may be afraid of getting a lifetime commitment; nonetheless, they can have romantic relationships. It may be described by those who have gamophobia that their fear of marriage is parallel to the fear of dying. People having this type of phobia either remain spinsters, bachelors or committed to a single partner for the rest of their life.
In today’s world where social media makes a tremendous deal of influence, most women are rushing to blend in or make their way to be noticed or be extraordinary. The powerful force of opinion is what runs this world now. It is what causes anxiety in women, and they just don’t want to admit it, or they may be unaware of it.
“Anxiety is a reaction to a situation we perceive as stressful or dangerous,” says Monique Reynolds, Ph.D., licensed clinical psychologist.
Are you lagging at work? Is functioning appropriately such a predicament? Are you feeling exhausted at every turn and are almost always irritable at your colleagues and boss? Are you still meeting goals and deadlines?
My mom gave me away for adoption when I was 15. Yes, 15! If I think about it now, I couldn’t fathom why anyone would give away their child at that age. I mean, wasn’t I part of the family? Didn’t they want me?
To think they weren’t even struggling in life. My mom gave me away to my wealthy aunt who couldn’t have a child, but regardless, I felt like a puppy! I have three brothers, and I’m the eldest. I was her only daughter, and she gave me away! I thought my stepdad didn’t want me because I wasn’t his. My stepdad was a policeman, and he was the one providing for the family so that I couldn’t ask my mom for anything. At least my brothers can.
My first year with my new family was great. I could buy whatever I want which is something I have never done with my real mom. When I turned 17, my step-parents started to argue a lot. The once happy house became so quiet that I felt alone. Nobody cared how lonely it was for me, and I couldn’t demand comfort from my aunt. I thought she was struggling herself. Things got pretty bad, and the family started to fall apart, and I learned that they were getting a divorce.
This was the beginning of my struggle with depression and anxiety.
You may experience anxiety as the feeling of having a pit in your stomach when you worry about something or as thoughts that race around keeping you up at night. Or even as a sense of dread that you’re not going be able to handle what’s ahead. – Alicia H. Clark PsyD
Some people who are diagnosed with depression do not report feeling depressed, sad or low, but rather, they report experiencing significantly diminished interest or pleasure in all, or almost all, activities most of the day, nearly every day. Either one, or both together, can be present when considering a diagnosis of depression. – Simon Rego, PsyD
Where Am I going to Go?
What’s Going To Happen To Me?
Before everything falls into pieces in front of me, I ran away with a friend. Although I was uncertain of what I was going to do, I felt free. For once in my life, I had control of where I was going to go. I had a choice. We rented an apartment and worked as a performer. I had to drink with the clients, so I was drunk every night. At first, I felt I had the time of my life. I enjoyed meeting new people, and they seemed to enjoy my company. Some men even offered me marriage, but I was enjoying myself too much to settle, and I was always a believer in love.
A few months later, my friend left me. She met a guy, and they decided to live together, so I was left alone. I had on and off relationships, but they all didn’t work out. The last one I had made an impact on me. He was an addict, and I was the one supporting him. There were times he’d hurt me whenever he asks for money, but I would tell him no. I knew I had to get out of that relationship, and I’m not that weak to stay when I know I don’t mean anything.
I finally had a new place to start a new beginning, again. It’s like having my fourth life. When I got settled, I began to have nightmares and some other odd things happening to my body. I sweat, and I feel like I’m running out of breath. Sometimes, I think that I’m dying, and I just get so scared that it causes me my sleep. I don’t get excited about the stuff that used to be fun for me. I just felt that I am sinking into a dark hole, and I couldn’t do anything!
I knew I needed help, so I took the step to get myself to counseling, but I felt nervous and hesitant when I got to the therapist’s office. I got nervous. I didn’t know what to say, so I went out of the building even before I reached the clinic. When I got home, I started to feel weird again. I was sitting on my couch and staring at my computer screen for almost 20 minutes. Then an idea popped into my head, “I might as well look for help online.” Then I spent half an hour reading about online counseling, which I think I’m going to try. I have booked my first session, and I’m hopeful that things will be better for me. “The benefits of therapy extend far beyond periods of crisis,” according to Ryan Howes, Ph.D. “Many people want more than to be ‘not depressed.’ They wonder what they can do to be the happiest, most productive, most loving version of themselves.”
I am ready to know myself and understand why I feel what I feel. Whatever’s in the past is gone, and although I feel sick, I am full of positivity that I am on my way to see better days. I’d put my trust in online counseling.
We all know someone who can’t wait to have a partner, settle down, and have kids. It seems like their priority in life is to get hitched. Is this feeling normal? What does psychiatry have to say about people, women in particular, who are anxious to get married? Why do they make it a big deal to settle down within a target age?
Being a woman is something to hold your chin up for, regardless of your size, race, and age. Especially now in this millennium, you have as much opportunity as any other guy to make your mark on this planet. It won’t be an overstatement to say that there are more lady bosses now than ever in history.
Rather than being intimidated by the accomplishments of other members of the female populace, their success should give an extra boost to your self-esteem. They got to triumph over the obstacles in their path; thus, it’s not impossible for you to achieve that as well.
Should you need tips on how to raise your confidence level, here are the ten actions worth doing:
- Correct Your Posture
This advice is a staple whenever you want to feel like you can take on the entire world. Straightening your back and pushing your stomach in and your chest out whether you’re standing or sitting can affect your poise positively.
- Tune In To Bass-Heavy Music
Listening to songs, in general, opens your heart and mind and allows you to make sound decisions right after. You may notice that the effect is primarily exceptional when the bass overpowers the other tunes in the song. “It seems as though – I wouldn’t say music has special properties – but, it has the ability to distract or engage in ways that other stimuli don’t.” Neuropsychologist Daniel Levitin, PhD explains.
- Smell Awesome
It’s easy to say hi to people or present your ideas when you know that you don’t smell like someone who hasn’t seen the shower for a few days. If you’re out all day, it’s best to carry a cologne or perfume in your purse for a quick spritz in between meetings.
- Accept Praises
The only time you should never welcome a compliment is when you honestly didn’t do a thing to receive such beautiful words. But in case you did create a breakthrough, then accept others’ praises and say thank you afterward. You deserve it, after all. As explained by Deborah Khoshaba Psy.D. “Self-love is not simply a state of feeling good. It is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth.”
Working out helps you lose or maintain your ideal weight, so you’ll be able to wear whatever you want. Aside from that, the activity pushes toxins out of your body and makes you look younger in the long run.
- Use Your Imagination
Visualization can be as powerful as the words you speak. According to some specialists, imagining that you vividly accomplish your goals increases your positivity. Often, that’s enough to raise your confidence level and enable you to act and bring that vision to reality.
- Tackle Problems Stat
A confident woman does not hide from complications either, whether it’s personal or work-related. Once you see an issue, you should deal with it immediately to prevent it from expanding to an even bigger problem later.
- Take Risks
Your self-esteem can benefit as well from your boldness. It isn’t a sign of weakness if you fail while doing a new activity. The opposite is true, however, once you decide not to try it at all.
- Help Someone
Lending a hand to a friend, a family member, or even a stranger delivers positive vibes to your system. Your action eases the burden the someone else is carrying, and that should boost your confidence.
Smiling although you don’t feel like doing so is an indication of your inner strength as a person. It’s better to do it often to lighten your mood and heart and have the energy to do tips 1-9. “When you need to improve your mood and life, smile on purpose. Have fun gazing into a mirror to get things just right, and then hit the streets with your grin,” says Yocheved Golani, a life coach.